Last week Ryan and his friend I, decided they wanted to get together and play after school. I made a plan with I’s mom for him to come to our house after school, do homework, and play. Sounds pretty normal, you are thinking to yourself. Except this is the first time this has happened for Ryan.
Let’s go back one full year. Ryan was a mess. He has a one to one aid in school called a TSS for most of the day. His teachers were singling him out and yelling at him all the time. He was being punished constantly and missed recess most days. He hated school and was suspended twice. He had almost no friends in school. It was taking him fifteen to twenty hours a week to complete his homework.
Fast forward one year. Word of the play date had spread like wildfire through the small school of 46 and I had kids of every grade wanting to make a play date as I volunteered at school Tuesday. The boys played hand held games in the car and were loud but so funny on the way home. They started their homework and I unloaded the dishwasher as I listened to Ryan and his friend chat as they created sentences for their work. Ryan’s friend is in 5th grade so his words were different but they had similar assignments. They helped each other with the meanings of words only asking me questions here and there. After that they moved to the computer to finish their online work. Before too long the boys all were out on the driveway running about playing and riding their green machines, scooters, and rip stick. A little before his friend left they came in and played a little minecraft with the rest of my neighborhood joining them through my backdoor. The visitor marveled wow your kids have a lot of friends. We took the friend home and everyone promised they wanted to do this again.
This unremarkable scene is completely remarkable to me. Ryan’s school has taught him how to succeed. He wants to do well and reaches for what he wants for the first time ever. My not medicated ADHD boy can complete his homework with a friend. Yeah, it took a little longer but they were great together. I hope the positive direction continues because our life at home has never been this normal.