My friend S left a comment about the heady feeling of guilt and relief when a Mom gets to escape the house without the kids or gets time alone.
My husband had to work this weekend but wound up with today off. I got up with the kids, got them dressed, and fed them breakfast. I let my husband sleep till almost 9 (that is mid-afternoon in my house). I gave him coffee in bed and fed him some Soy Milk Pancakes. He got up and got dressed. I handed him the bag we use for snacks, diapers for Baby A, and epipen. I handed him his car keys and told them I will see you all at noon. No guilt. None at all. This is my two hours and I am going to own them!
I think that society assumes Mom’s are supposed to give it all up for the kids as well as be interesting, have a career, and be their own people. That is so wrong. No one can do it all. Getting time to yourself makes you a better parent not a bad parent. Shoot, I wish I had more people in our lives to spend time with the kids. S you are a great Mom and an even better Mom when you are refreshed and have had time for you. Why is the Mom supposed to be the “caretaker”?? We were all people with lives before we were Mom’s with passions, interests, and idea’s. Why can’t we all still be those people we were without guilt?