It takes a few weeks for the charter homeschool paperwork to go through so we had Ryan’s annual IEP meeting at school followed by a meeting with a psychologist for the final report for Ryan to have a Therapeutic Support Service worker, which is amazing because we have gotten so far in the process.
Let’s start with the IEP meeting. Ryan has come a long way in reading. He started first grade at a Pre-K reading level and is now in 2nd grade functioning at a 1st grade 8 month level. He has caught up quite a bit. Ryan in math is functioning at a 3rd grade 8 month level. I was blown away. I knew he was very strong in math but not that strong. For now Ryan gets pulled out of class for reading and they are trying to reward his positive behavior. He will continue to see his therapist in school. The school is going to support his deficits but because he is gifted in only math they will not support that, they would support him only if he tested overall gifted in school. That, of course, did not sit right with me. After threatening the school with a special education lawyer they finally modified his homework by sending home a packet on Friday so we have seven days to complete the work. The seven days of homework is great. We can break the work down to small manageable goals. The work gets done, the studying gets done, and the work is of high quality.
Then we went to the meeting with the psychologist. She was awesome. She thought we were looking at more than ADHD with Ryan and gave an opinion that she thought he had Pervasive Developmental Disorder (PDD), which puts Ryan on the Autism Spectrum. She forthrightly said she thought Ryan needed a Therapeutic Support Person and was going to present the best report she could for him. She is going to send me a referral to Drexel University to get formally diagnosed with PDD. The PDD diagnosis will open up more services that we need including respite, which is something we need sometimes. This diagnosis explains the quirky strange behavior Ryan has at times and the stimming he does when overtired.
Now, we have a decision to make. Ryan’s gift in math makes me want to homeschool even more because his gift is not going to be recognized there. Then again Ryan getting a one to one aid in school to help him navigate interpersonal relationships is huge. After the meeting we are reexamining our decision to homeschool. Do we send him to school and support his math at home? Do we homeschool and support his PDD and relationship issues with classes in socialization. It is a big decision and one we are not taking lightly. Internet this tangle of needs never stops getting more and more tangled.