One of Ryan’s biggest problems lately are transitions between activities.  He tends to get his most belligerant, hostile, and defiant. Sometimes it is just hard to make a smooth transition for him. Sometimes you find a new technique to help make it easier.

This morning we had to go pick up my husbands motorcycle. We came home and I fed the kids lunch. My husband arrived and I said ok, Ryan it is time to start the homework before you go out to play. He got really mad that we pulled him from his game. Instead of trying to get him to work, or cajole him we let him sit alone as we cleaned up the kitchen. After about five to seven minutes of having his head on his folded arms his mood was 100% different. He happily got his work done without any strife or stress. I started with him and midway my husband took over so I could go to sleep for a while before my night shift. We praised him up and down because he made a positive transition. He worked hard on the homework and never a negative word was uttered.

The small wins are the most powerful.