It’s the same old thing here. Ryan is in trouble. Again the swim coach said if he does not get it together he will be off the team and he was better behaved tonight than he ever was at swim team. Swimming is something he is good at and he is going to wind up off the team which is going to crush his self esteem even more.
I spend my days lately just wading through waiting for Ryan to be in trouble again. It is inevitable and unavoidable. He is reinstated to school but I feel like it is a matter of time before the next crisis starts. His chronological age marches on but he is more like a kid two years younger. Ryan is big for his age and because of his issues acts younger. That is hard. People look at him and expect so much more than he is really capable of giving them.
Anyone know of a cave Ryan and I can go hang out in for a few years because this social stuff is getting the best of my husband and I as parents and is hell on Ryan.
October 15, 2012 at 6:22 pm
Hugs, mama. This stuff is hella hard.
October 15, 2012 at 6:30 pm
So understood. Ry was diagnosed at 2 1/2 yrs/ younger than his age and he’s also large for his age. It’s very difficult as people look at you like they expect so much more. It is so difficult to deal with other peoples comments and looks. I’m here if you need a shoulder. Hang in there and always remember one day at a time.
October 16, 2012 at 7:45 am
I’m so sorry you are all going through this. We are starting in on the “social” shit and it’s breaking my heart. We had pulled back on D’s social skills program but now we are heading back in at full force. Plus they are adding a social skills thing into his IEP at school so they can work on it with him there. I hope you find answers.
October 16, 2012 at 12:47 pm
What grade is Ryan in again? Sorry things are tough. It really sucks to feel like the troubles are inevitable. I hope he can stay on swim team, but it seems the coach might be at the end of his rope, eh?