I know you all must be tired of hearing it but homework is a non-issue. Sit with me a second on those words. Not an issue. At all.
Pinch me, cause I must be dreaming.
The homework is exactly what it is supposed to be, reinforcing what they are learning. I am saving $50 a week in a homework helper because I no longer need her. My stomach has completely stopped churning as soon as I think of picking up the kids from school. After school for the last two years Ryan would inevitably be set off and annoying Aaron or I as much as he could. He would not be able to listen at all to anything I said. I was frustrated, he was frustrated, and Aaron was frustrated. He couldn’t change his clothes without supervision because he would be in trouble. I had to get him organized and started on homework which usually included a mountain of stupid busy work and included hours and hours of work even on a good day.
Now when I get the kids we have a half hour commute. I give them the after school snack to eat on the 30 minute commute. When we get in the car we chat after the farewell to friends. They tell me the highlights of their day, the good, and the bad as they snack. Then I let them play some DS. By the time we get home they are ready for homework. They change their clothes quietly, on their own, and start on homework. Aaron has ALWAYS been able to complete his homework on his own but Ryan now does too except for the reading.
Ryan gets out his schoolwork and gets himself organized. I will repeat that, my not medicated ADHD kid organizes his own homework. He knows what has to be done and he does it because they have a homework schedule. I have not had to say, focus Ryan at all this year. Not once. I keep waiting for the other shoe to drop but it doesn’t. He finishes and inevitably by 4:30pm or earlier he is outside and both boys are either fighting or combing the neighborhood for friends. Eventually, their friends finish their homework and come out to play.
Last year Ryan never got to go out and play. If he did the other kids went in 5 minutes later because it was dark already.
I am just so grateful. This is allowing time. Time for another client. Time to volunteer in the school one afternoon a week. Time to feel normal, in our oh so, not normal world. Life is amazing.