I can remember clearly the Memorial Day weekends that have been cold and rainy in my life. The first memory I was about ten years old. I remember we had outside plans for a neighborhood bar-b-que but they were canceled. Every glance outside revealed thick thick Long Island fog. I was so disappointed that our outside plans were canceled. I can clearly hear my Dad’s voice in my head say, Josie this weather can’t last forever you will be swimming outside by next week. We played so many card games, checkers, dominoes, and games of cribbage that day. Just thinking of this makes me miss him more than I do everyday.
The next rainy Memorial Day Weekend that stands out for me I was about twenty one years old. I was dating a dude whose family hated me and I was pretending to be more typical than I actually am. My boyfriend and I layed around all weekend and all I could think about was offing myself. I hated life because I was so afraid to be who I wanted to be and not what other people wanted me to be. I remember driving to and from college thinking this can’t be it, I can’t spend the rest of my life pretending that I don’t want adventures. We went to an amazing Mexican restaurant that used to be at 40th and Walnut. I remember that year both the 4th of July and Memorial Day were rainy. I was so sad and miserable without a tribe. It was not long after that I started meeting my peeps who are still in my life from West Philly.
My former nephew neighbor’s birthday is Memorial Day Weekend. I remember going to a house my sister used to own at the Jersey Shore to celebrate his birthday. We took the teenage kids to the arcade and the movies in the rain. Although it rained all weekend I was so happy to be surrounded by family and my nephews friends. I remember my then boyfriend, now husband bonding with my ADHD nephew. By the end of the weekend my nephew was wearing my now husbands shredded hoodie. Those two are close to this day. It was a life changing weekend.
A few years ago it rained all Memorial Day Weekend. The kids wanted to swim outside but at that time we were indoor pool members as well as outdoor pool members. It was before the kids started swimming swim team. We had so much fun at the empty indoor pool that weekend. It was a time when it was hard to live with both kids because ADHD preschooler was tough. We had an amazing time swimming. We laughed and played. My husband and I got to spend time in the hot tub. We promised the kids that in a few short weeks the outdoor pool would be warm enough for play.
This year Memorial Day Weekend is starting off cold. Last year we were at the pool the whole time over the weekend. Tonight is Friday. My kids went to school in shorts but by the time I picked them up it was so cold. I was seeking out copies of Aaron’s 504 plan from the nurse for the new school and I sprung the kids a few minutes early. We had made plans to play basketball in the school yard after school but it was too cold and rainy. The kids were disappointed. We came home and the boys did exactly what they wanted. We did not do homework or study. Aaron put puzzles together and Ryan played Minecraft. Aaron spent a ton of time wiggling his loose tooth. Then the boys started watching MineCraft videos on You Tube. Over the last few weeks they have forgotten about all TV and watch Minecraft videos when they are not playing the game. We all sat together on a cold foggy night in our PJ’s talking about Minecraft and watching the videos together. It’s going to be a hard weekend. I have to work Saturday day, my husband has to work Sunday, and we might all have off on Monday. I hope my kids remember this time like I remember the time with my Dad.